When I wrote my New Year blog post I knew that I’d set myself a big task and I also knew that my plans were not going to travel a straight forward path. I’ve just returned from two and a half weeks in the UK where I’ve been helping my family at a time in need. So did I fail at the first hurdle like the media predicted?
Sometimes our goals and desires have to be put to one side for a time or we have to accept that we cannot always achieve what we set out to do. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed. In fact, the very fact that you’ve made the effort to create goals helps you to decide what is important when the pressure is on. Family will always come first, but that doesn’t mean I can’t fulfil some of the plans I’d made.
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” – Bill Copeland
I think one of the main issues we have with goal setting is the fear of failure. It’s drummed into us at an early age and we’re kind of set up with this competitive nature which is supposed to drive us forward. Become ‘successful’, exceed others. In fact many of the quotes about goals talk about failures and success but I’ve never been particularly comfortable with this point of view. Mainly because, well life happens. Some would say that’s the talk of a victim. I’m no victim but I do believe that sometimes other things are more important than our goals and we shouldn’t beat ourself up because we don’t achieve them. Just take a step back, reassess and make a new plan. It doesn’t mean your goals are lost and it shouldn’t mean you give up.
“Live is 10% what happens and 90% how we react to it”
It’s what you do after, that matters. How you readjust, work it out and resume where you left off. I set a writing goal of writing, revising, or editing three pages a day. My write chain link did break, I achieved 24 days out of 31. However, I did writing my morning journal every day and on many of the days I achieved the goal, I achieved more than a target. For me it’s about looking through the right lens of the telescope. It’s too easy to say I failed, to give up. I have a deadline to publish the next book in my Daisy Chain Publication plan by the 29th February (thank goodness for the leap year!) and I’m way behind. But I’m going to pull out all the stops to make it happen.
Hope is wishing something would happen
Faith is believing something will happen
Courage is making sure something does happen
And I’m doing this for my father, who has supported me 100% in the pursuit of my writing, is my biggest fan and my loyal reader. He’s showing enormous courage at the hardest of times and I owe it to him, to make this happen.